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Author: cindycrawford Subject: new guy here
htownmike
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posted on 01-13-2008 at 17:18 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
new guy here

I'm new here and I'm 29. I guess the reason I'm a virgin is because I don't have enough confidence in myself. Anyway it's nice to relate to someone I feel like I'm the only virgin my age sometimes.
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posted on 01-13-2008 at 21:19 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Hey HtownMike!

'I'm new here and I'm 29. I guess the reason I'm a virgin is because I don't have
enough confidence in myself. Anyway it's nice to relate to someone I feel like I'm
the only virgin my age sometimes.'


If it makes you feel any better, I’m in my late-40's and still a virgin myself
- never having an intimate relationship in my life (a “relationship virgin”)
- and - no - you’re DEFINITELY NOT the only one your age.

I know what you're going through, and you have my sympathies.

What do you think that you need to do to get some confidence in yourself?


... and I’m to the northwest of Houston.


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htownmike
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posted on 01-13-2008 at 22:05 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
hi

Well I guess I just need to get more comfortable with girls. I'm afraid that if I do get real close to a girl and it gets to that point in that relationship I'll have to confess I'm a virgin not sure how they'll react. I only told one girl that I'm a virgin. So I guess the best way for me is to talk to them online first or just to be myself.
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posted on 01-13-2008 at 22:28 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
comfort


....................................................
'Well I guess I just need to get more comfortable with girls."
....................................................

Are you comfortable with people in general?

Do you socialize with any groups?


....................................................
"I'm afraid that if I do get real close to a girl and it gets to that point in that relationship I'll have to confess I'm a virgin not sure how they'll react."
....................................................

It's my position that, if the girl would ridicule me, then she's an idiot
- and not worth my time nor attention - to HELL with her. If she reacts
favorably, then she might have some potential.

I think that telling a girl that you're a virgin is a good test.

I would tell her straight away, mainly because I'd prefer a virgin myself
for a relationship. I would want someone on the same level as myself
in terms of relationship experience.


....................................................
" I only told one girl that I'm a virgin."
....................................................

How did she react?


....................................................
"So I guess the best way for me is to talk to them online first or just to be myself."
....................................................

"Just be yourself" would work OK if you happen to be someone that
is socially viable. For me, being "myself" means being a social retard
- mainly due to my affliction - Aspergers Syndrome - I don't have much
in the way of a personality - I'm a ... Blank Wall. I've made significant
progress in mitigating the problem over the years, but I'm not what most
people would consider to be "normal" (however you would want to define
the word). The vast majority of the female population wouldn't want
anything to do with me, and the feeling is pretty much mutual. I don't
want ordinary - I want extra-ordinary.

IOW: My expectations are pretty much unrealistic, but it's not a problem.

Perhaps you're not similarly deficient. If that is the case, then being yourself
would be the thing to do.

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htownmike
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posted on 01-13-2008 at 22:54 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
about myself


Are you comfortable with people in general?
Yes I'm pretty comfortable with people, I might be a little shy or keep to myself but that's because I always have a lot on my mind.

Do you socialize with any groups?
Actually I do I hang out sometimes with other people that have same interest as me. It usually online groups, that's how I meet 1 really nice girl and got pretty comfortable with her as a friend.

How did she react?
She told me she felt our friendship got closer. So she said she's glad I told her.

"Just be yourself" would work OK if you happen to be someone that
is socially viable. For me, being "myself" means being a social retard
- mainly due to my affliction - Aspergers Syndrome - I don't have much
in the way of a personality - I'm a ... Blank Wall. I've made significant
progress in mitigating the problem over the years, but I'm not what most
people would consider to be "normal" (however you would want to define
the word). The vast majority of the female population wouldn't want
anything to do with me, and the feeling is pretty much mutual. I don't
want ordinary - I want extra-ordinary.

Not saying that I'm ugly, I think I'm ok looking, but only a couple girls in my whole life told me I was cute to my face. I think that's the problem I have I don't know how girls feel about me that's why I don't have a lot of confidence to go up to girls.
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posted on 01-13-2008 at 23:27 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Try this

If your only problem is that your confidence sucks ass, try looking at this site.

I get the guy, John Alanis, emails. And yeah, I know I'm a chick, but I like to think that I'll meet a good guy that's sexy, and fun and respectable. So check it out. If you don't get the program at least get some of his emails. It even changed the way I look at myself and it seems that the only thing I have to do is be cute and stay a good girl to get a guy worth my time. Anyway, check it out. I hope it helps you.
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posted on 01-14-2008 at 21:28 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Hey HtownMike 02!

>> Are you comfortable with people in general?
>
> Yes I'm pretty comfortable with people, I might be a little shy or keep to myself
> but that's because I always have a lot on my mind.

What are some of the things that you think about when you’re in those social situations?

Do most people bore you?


>> Do you socialize with any groups?
>
> Actually I do I hang out sometimes with other people that have same interest as me.
> It usually online groups, that's how I meet 1 really nice girl and got pretty
> comfortable with her as a friend.

Online groups don’t count - it needs to be in the flesh.

What are your interests?

What is your line of employment?


>> How did she react?
>
> She told me she felt our friendship got closer. So she said she's glad I told her.

Was she someone that you thought you might want to have a (more intimate) relationship with?


>> "Just be yourself" would work OK if you happen to be someone that
>> is socially viable. For me, being "myself" means being a social retard
>> - mainly due to my affliction - Aspergers Syndrome - I don't have much
>> in the way of a personality - I'm a ... Blank Wall. I've made significant
>> progress in mitigating the problem over the years, but I'm not what most
>> people would consider to be "normal" (however you would want to define
>> the word). The vast majority of the female population wouldn't want
>> anything to do with me, and the feeling is pretty much mutual. I don't
>> want ordinary - I want extra-ordinary.
>
> Not saying that I'm ugly, I think I'm ok looking, but only a couple girls in my
> whole life told me I was cute to my face.

That’s two more than I’ve had. Girls don’t normally tell guys that to their faces
- unless he’s a total hunk.


> I think that's the problem I have I
> don't know how girls feel about me that's why I don't have a lot of confidence
> to go up to girls. '

If you don’t give a girl a chance to get to know you, then how could she ever
form an opinion?

Can you see the futility within this mind set?

Can you post a pic?




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posted on 01-14-2008 at 23:04 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
more info

What are some of the things that you think about when you’re in those social situations? It's just not in those situations only it's all the time. It's just I have a lot of personal things that I have in my mind.

Do most people bore you? No I wouldn't say that


Online groups don’t count - it needs to be in the flesh.
I did meet them in person it's just that online is how I first got to know them.

What are your interests? Pretty much anything to do with cars I like and sports

What is your line of employment? I work at an auto parts store

Was she someone that you thought you might want to have a (more intimate) relationship with? No not with her. I do love her very much though, it's just that she's taken and I need a friend like that in my life right now. To be honest with you we both agree that we both needed a good friend in our lives at the time.


That’s two more than I’ve had. Girls don’t normally tell guys that to their faces
- unless he’s a total hunk.

If you don’t give a girl a chance to get to know you, then how could she ever
form an opinion? Well that one girl I was talking about that I told her I was a virgin she knows me very well.


It's my cousin and I, I'm on the left.

BTW: thanks for all the advice so far man.
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posted on 01-17-2008 at 20:53 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Automobiles

>> What are some of the things that you think about when you’re in those social situations?
>
> It's just not in those situations only it's all the time. It's just I have a lot of
> personal things that I have in my mind.

Proper functioning in social situations requires that you take an interest in other people.
You might want to check your problems at the door when you engage yourself in social situations,
and focus on the person that you’re interacting with.

I tend to ask a lot of questions in generic social situations.


>> Do most people bore you?
> No I wouldn't say that

Do other people take an interest in yourself?


>> Online groups don’t count - it needs to be in the flesh.
>
> I did meet them in person it's just that online is how I first got to know them.

What did you do together?


>> What are your interests?
>
> Pretty much anything to do with cars I like and sports

Automobiles!!!

That’s a good interest to have for attracting girls.

I’m trying to think of some way that you could exploit that, but I don’t know that much
about automobiles. Are there any particular kinds of cars that you like?


>> What is your line of employment?
>
> I work at an auto parts store

... then you can function to the point that you can deal with customers.

... so that means that you’re not hopeless.


>> Was she someone that you thought you might want to have a (more intimate) relationship with?
>
> No not with her. I do love her very much though, it's just that she's taken and I need
> a friend like that in my life right now. To be honest with you we both agree that we
> both needed a good friend in our lives at the time.

OK - that’s a good friend to have.

Have you ever discussed with her the matter that you’ve never had a girlfriend?

If she can speak favorably of you, then she’ll likely have friends and family of the
female variety that she could introduce you to.

... but you need to work the conversation around to discussing that issue.

I’d start by discussing your life-situation in general.

You could start with how your life in general is going rather well at the present,
but the thing that you’re missing is that you don’t have anyone to love - and she
should take a hint from that.

... but I’m being presumptuous in assuming that your life is generally going rather well.

... is it?


>> That’s two more than I’ve had. Girls don’t normally tell guys that to their faces
>> - unless he’s a total hunk.
>>
>> If you don’t give a girl a chance to get to know you, then how could she ever
>> form an opinion?
>
> Well that one girl I was talking about that I told her I was a virgin she knows me very well.

... but she isn’t a potential relationship partner.

... and I was referring to girls in general.

... the ones who have yet to get to know you.

How did you meet your current friend (the one that you’re referring to)?


>
> It's my cousin and I, I'm on the left.

I’m not a good judge of attractive guys - and I suppose that if I thought a guy was
attractive it would mean that I’m GAY - but I would think that there are a lot of girls
out there who would find you physically attractive.

You look like you’re somewhat large. How tall are you? ... weight?


> BTW: thanks for all the advice so far man.'

No prob - that’s what we’re here for.

It’s a shame that there are not more virgins posting here.

I would hope that there are a lot of shy virgin types are lurking here, but simply
too shy to post.

.
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posted on 02-11-2008 at 22:21 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
hey



Do other people take an interest in yourself?
I guess they do, i don't really ask them.


What did you do together?
We just hang out and talk or we go out and eat somewhere

Are there any particular kinds of cars that you like?
I really like muscle cars but right now I go for small compact cars since that's all I can afford right now.


Have you ever discussed with her the matter that you’ve never had a girlfriend?
Well I had a girlfriend in high school. I tell that girl everything pretty much.

If she can speak favorably of you, then she’ll likely have friends and family of the
female variety that she could introduce you to.

Well she lives in another State so it will be hard for her to do.


How did you meet your current friend (the one that you’re referring to)?
I first got to talk to her online on a chat room.


I’m not a good judge of attractive guys - and I suppose that if I thought a guy was
attractive it would mean that I’m GAY - but I would think that there are a lot of girls
out there who would find you physically attractive.

You look like you’re somewhat large. How tall are you? ... weight?

I wouldn't say you were gay if I was a nice looking guy. I'm about 5-11, not sure about the weight I haven't weighted myself in awhile, but I'm probably a little overweight.

> BTW: thanks for all the advice so far man.'

No prob - that’s what we’re here for.

It’s a shame that there are not more virgins posting here.

I would hope that there are a lot of shy virgin types are lurking here, but simply
too shy to post.

.
'
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posted on 03-26-2010 at 13:24 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
sex problem

Hi,
i am new here and just join this forum. Facing some sex problem not feel excitement in bed what i do?
welcome valuable suggestion.
thanks in advance.
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